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Babylon
Sweden
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 Posted - 31 Oct 2007 : 13:05:20
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| Sibo and tisme. Just asking out of curiousity: would you date a man who is not a Gambian or are you only into Gambian men? |
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Sibo
Denmark
231 Posts |
Posted - 31 Oct 2007 : 13:55:00
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| If a man treats me with respect and treats me good and respects my religious believes and values, then it does not matter which nationality he has. All women want is a man who cares about them and treats them with respect. I would not want a man to take me for granted or think that I am his personal servant. If I find all these in a Gambia man that would be great, cause he will be someone withe the same cultural background, maybe language and stuff like that. But if I happen to meet someone other than a gambian with the same qualities, then I will go for it. I hope my answer serves your curiosity, Babylon |
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che
South Africa
40 Posts |
Posted - 31 Oct 2007 : 14:05:53
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| Whilst you are bringing up a good subject for discussion,Tisme,it wont be a fair assessment to say all Gambian men can be painted with the same brush.This is a worldwide phenomenon,that every society,race,culture,etc,will have its rotten lot.At most our characters are molded when,were,how we were brought up.There are certain values imparted in us by our elders,well for some,we do abandon them.But every man/woman is an individual.I firmly believe,you can find your true love from any race,tribe,culture.It takes respect,honour and commitment to create a family.In brief,yes a Gambian men can be worth your time. |
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mansasulu
997 Posts |
Posted - 31 Oct 2007 : 19:05:38
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| My advise to you is get a man who fears Allah. The reason I say this is that if he is concious of the boundaries set by Allah he is unlikely to overstep them and this advise goes to the brothers as well. If a man or woman does not fear Allah he is unlikely to respect others or give them rights due them. |
"...Verily, in the remembrance of Allâh do hearts find rest..." Sura Al-Rad (Chapter 13, Verse 28)
...Gambian by birth, Muslim by the grace of Allah... |
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kayjatta
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Posted - 31 Oct 2007 : 20:56:56
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Many so-called God-fearing people are often the worst in terms of respect for human rights and especially the rights of women. This may not be because they are "cruel", but rather their concept of human rights and the rights of women are often different.
So dear sisters, while you look for some one who is God-fearing make sure he is some one also whose idea of freedom, human rights and the rights of women are similar to or atleast acceptable to you. |
Edited by - kayjatta on 01 Nov 2007 09:22:41 |
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turk
USA
3356 Posts |
Posted - 31 Oct 2007 : 21:44:52
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kayjatta
Is that the kind of men you are seeking. I hope one day you will find your ideal men. Anyway
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My gambian wife loves myself, the turkish men, a turkish delight.
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diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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Sibo
Denmark
231 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 09:24:36
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I think that Mansasulu is right, if someone really fears God he will be very careful about doing wrong onto other people. But as Kay says, if they are just phonies letting people from outside think that they are God fearing then I do not think that they will care much about the way they treat other people.
Another thing is that it takes two committed people to make a relationship work. Its great that women have more choices and less suppressed, but some women tend to forget that they still are women. I think that women should be more willing to work things out with their men and the same thing goes for men too instead of getting a divorce every time there occurs a disagreement. |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 09:32:21
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| Good point Sibo, indeed it takes two to tango. Marriage or any man/woman relationship must be a two-way street, one person cannot do it. Divorce is a terrible thing especially when kids are involved. The key is to find the right spouse, but unfortunately in today's world that is a tall order... |
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Sibo
Denmark
231 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 10:45:00
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| I completely agree with you Kay. I feel sorry for my generation, cause women feel like they cannot trust men and men feel like all women are gold diggers. women think men are without ambition and motivation, men think women are trying to be men. As one of my favorite soul singers India Arie said "how can love survive in such a graceless age"? and she is so right |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 10:51:43
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| I think she is absolutely right. |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 11:12:17
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| In the U.S. here, for example , half(50%) of all marriages end in divorce. It is ridiculous. But I think the biggest challenge to a relationship of commitment such as marriage is the trappings of today's careers and the freedoms that come with it. Indeed men are from Mars and women from Venus... |
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Sibo
Denmark
231 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 11:43:08
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| It seems that everybody is so busy climbing the career ladder that we all forget about other important things in life, the joy of having a family and someone to share with. Women refuse go give birth and most men do not want to get married. If things keep on going like this, whats gonna happen in the next 50-100 years??? |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 11:47:12
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| That's a good question. But maybe the trend will change... |
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Sibo
Denmark
231 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 12:18:40
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| I really hope it will |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 12:39:03
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| For three reasons, first if the fertility rates decline below replenishment level, and second government intervention such as tax incentives for married people,and thirdly the realization that two income families generally are better off financially than single parent households; people's attitute about marriage and family MAY change... |
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