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mansasulu
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 Posted - 01 Nov 2007 : 13:49:25
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Originally posted by kayjatta
Many so-called God-fearing people are often the worst in terms of respect for human rights and especially the rights of women. This may not be because they are "cruel", but rather their concept of human rights and the rights of women are often different.
So dear sisters, while you look for some one who is God-fearing make sure he is some one also whose idea of freedom, human rights and the rights of women are similar to or atleast acceptable to you.
There is clearly a difference between someone who truely fears Allah, and someone is a "so-called God fearing person" and I pray that Allah gives all of us the wisdom to distinguish between the two. I have been married to a Gambian woman for a little almost three years, and Alhamdullillah we are happy together for the most part.
Finding a suitable mate is not always easy but if you find one pray that Allah strengthen the love and dedication between the two of you. There are bound to be disagreements or conflicts in relationships, more so in a marriage, a lifetime committment.
Clearly there are good and bad people out there. Furthermore, there are hypocrites out there as well. To me they are even worst that the bad one because you can never predict them so look out closely for them. The bad ones, there may be a chance for them to change or some hope but the hypocrites...beware of them. |
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serenata
Germany
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Posted - 02 Nov 2007 : 17:19:19
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Originally posted by Sibo
Women refuse go give birth and most men do not want to get married. If things keep on going like this, whats gonna happen in the next 50-100 years???
Sibo, relax - mankind is not at all in the danger of dying out, and is not necessary for everybody to have children. Maybe our good and dear Mother Earth needs a little break... too many humans down here, like lice on a head, destroying whatever comes their way. God and Nature show us our limits. |
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Sister Omega
United Kingdom
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Posted - 17 Nov 2007 : 12:08:08
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Tisme what doesn't kill you can only make you grow stronger. Nothing happens before its time and when you eventually meet the right Guy for you. You'll know why the last relationship didn't work because it just wasn't meant to be. Don't worry sis something better will come your way. The question is not necessarily whether or not are Gambian men really worth our while? Are we really worth being treated with love and respect? Of course the answer is yes. This is not just a man thing because there are women universally that also disrespect their husbands or partners. I think the major work to be done is on the individual themselves what you give out is what you get back. No one can make another person into a doormat unless they allow them too.
Love fundamentally comes out of self love. If you love and respect yourself then you won't allow someone else to disrespect you. I believe that Our Creator is fundamental factor in all of this because we can all plan out our lives, whether this is our careers, relationships etc and then something drastic and out of the blue happens pulling the rug from under our feet. What we thought was up is now down. Who we thought were our friends were our enemies, the relationship that we thought would last forever is in shreds finished and there we are on our lonesome. So who have we got then ourselves and Our Creator. We can either sink or swim! We're given a choice! So we use the energy of anger and challenge it into the determination to succeed. when we reach the point of forgiveness we free up room for something new to come into our lives.
There is light at the end of the tunnel and as you reach the end of you'll know how far you've traveled as a person to find that light within yourself and to top it have someone to share your life with. To answer your question are Gambian men worth it yes my husband definitely is.
Peace
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Peace
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Edited by - Sister Omega on 17 Nov 2007 12:12:21 |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 17 Nov 2007 : 13:49:53
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[quote]Originally posted by Sister Omega
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"Love fundamentally comes out of self love. If you love and respect yourself then you won't allow someone else to disrespect you."
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Can't agree with those couple of sentences.I KNOW I am not nice,(bad word but I cannot think of another that fits)so how can I have "self love"? others are entitled to "disrespect" me,it's a fact of life,you ,Omega are in full bloom now,I hope it lasts for you.
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"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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inez
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Posted - 17 Nov 2007 : 20:17:49
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It is very important to forgive... toubab, to forgive even yourself. people make mistakes and hurt others but itīs never too late to change. I swear itīs plenty of people here who believe that you are not that bad |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 17 Nov 2007 : 20:19:59
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OK, I can take comfort from that, I will grudgingly agree, "I am not that bad" Thanks. |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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serenata
Germany
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Posted - 19 Nov 2007 : 19:14:08
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Originally posted by Sister Omega
I think the major work to be done is on the individual themselves what you give out is what you get back. No one can make another person into a doormat unless they allow them too.
Love fundamentally comes out of self love. If you love and respect yourself then you won't allow someone else to disrespect you.
Absolutely true. Men (not only Gambian!!!) have a certain tendency to make women believe that they are less valuable; the hell knows why. It is our, the women's decision either to believe this crap - or just laugh about it. |
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toubab1020
12309 Posts |
Posted - 19 Nov 2007 : 21:54:32
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Originally posted by serenata
[quote]Originally posted by Sister Omega
I think the major work to be done is on the individual why. It is our, the women's decision either to believe this crap - or just laugh about it.
Hmmmmmmmmmmm....crap........just laugh about it
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"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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serenata
Germany
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Posted - 26 Nov 2007 : 16:56:28
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I do, toubabo mio!  |
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