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Santanfara
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 Posted - 17 Jan 2008 : 16:48:26
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| sere,the two ladies weren't forced into any marriage. that system have long fade away in the gambia. i can understand your stand with women right issues but we also need to analyse situations independently. it doesn't mean any time a woman is involve in a love triangle she is a victim. the two ladies freely accept this poor men and then ditch them .i have no information about MB's former wife .he have dump her or she may have fall out of love with her. remember people still fall inlove online and through pictures ,that is what happen with the last story .the lady show the picture of the man and she aggrees to marry her. infact she is no punch bag.i spoke to her during the reconcilaition efforts but she was articulate and robourst .she planed it sere. there are many similar stories in U.S also involving pre-plan devorces by gambian women. lets be honest in this sad cases.thanks any way. |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
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serenata
Germany
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Posted - 17 Jan 2008 : 17:09:49
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| You are absolutely right, Santanfara - women are not always victims. So, if nobody was forced and nobody dumped, it is a real betrayal. I feel sorry for your friend and wish him better luck with his next partner. But a closer look at her character would be good before he decides to marry next time; I hope he doesn't fall for a pretty face and sweet words... |
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anna
Netherlands
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Posted - 17 Jan 2008 : 17:25:12
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No matter how hard i try, i cannot imagine anybody (male or female) marrying somebody on the basis of a picture and some emails..............
Santanfara, what a sad story - it is hardly any comfort but it could happen anywhere and to anybody, although again i would like to state: why marry someone you do not really know at all??? |
When an old African dies, it is as if a whole library has burnt down.
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Santanfara
3460 Posts |
Posted - 17 Jan 2008 : 18:39:45
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thanks sere and anna. i hope the two guys learn better next time. i for one will never do such a thing. but i am already married .what am i saying . |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
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turk
USA
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Posted - 17 Jan 2008 : 21:42:38
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serenata
Thanks. Love her very much. |
diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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kayjatta
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Posted - 18 Jan 2008 : 07:52:42
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Originally posted by Santanfara
thanks sere and anna. i hope the two guys learn better next time. i for one will never do such a thing. but i am already married .what am i saying .
You are not gonna take another one Santafara, ain't you entitled to four  ? |
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Santanfara
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Posted - 18 Jan 2008 : 18:14:35
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| kay,you are right .but no room for any at present.i let you go first |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
www.suntoumana.blogspot.com |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 06:52:41
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| No thanks, may be Dalton first :)... |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 09:29:19
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Perhaps the women concerned might have some say. They might not want to be ANYONES second or third or fourth piece of property!!!!  
I call them property rather than wife because this is the attitude to women shown time and time again in these postings (even if done in a 'joking' way).
To me as a women raised in the Christian faith (even though I am not christian now) my culture emphasises being faithful and true to the one that you chose to marry and spend the rest of your life with. This is the ideal and of course many of us fall short of it. But it is still an excellent ideal.
One day I hope I might meet a soul mate and settle down with them for the rest of my life. We can all dream!
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Santanfara
3460 Posts |
Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 12:00:49
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| call it property or commodity ,we call it wife. |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
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toubab1020
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Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 14:53:59
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Originally posted by Santanfara
call it property or commodity ,we call it wife.
Oh dear..........call "it" wife........Sister Omega,input please!!!
Where are you on this sister you have been active elswhere whats your take on this? |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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jambo
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Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 15:48:30
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| in african in the christian belief you are expected to have one wife and be faithful, but some will follow tribal rules and marry their brothers widow, the church does not frown on it, because tribes are first. also they are very respectful of their second wife. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 17:01:45
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Jambo that is SLIGHTLY different because that is designed to protect the widow in a society where there is no social security. I can understand the need for that.
So now wives are 'it'...... the more I read on here I am SO glad not to be married to a Muslim man. But then I bet they are glad not to be married to me! |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 17:51:01
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| Don't knock yourself,you appear to be a good woman albeit a bit TOO romantic looking at the world through rose coloured glasses! |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 19 Jan 2008 : 19:42:37
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Thanks, I do tend to think that other people think the same way I do about the world...and then I get disappointed by them when they don't.
I try to look for the good in people. (A quaker philosophy).
I am open and honest. Kind and caring. Some people take advantage of that, or try to. But I can be business like and professional too. I am NOT a walk over!
I am still an idealist. Life hasn't knocked that out of me. Sometimes in Gambia my idealism is severely tested, but it comes back.
The recipe for a successful marriage is easy: find someone you love, respect them, care for them, listen to them and be faithful to them. It takes two people believing the same for this to work. |
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