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jambo
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 Posted - 14 May 2006 : 17:01:57
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i put a question to members a qhile ago and was thron by the replies. a situation has risen and wish the members could advise me on what to do.
i sponsor a child to go to school St Theresea, she was introduced to me by a teacher who believed in the child, but the family is struggling. . In september i paid 500 dls for the school, year paid for extra books and bought shoes. Every one was happy. she is doing okay but she wants to go to methodist school after year nine. i spoke to the teacher who advised that she needs extra maths classes to bring up her grades, because methodist, gambia high and st peters can commanded high marks for the children who want to enter their schools. i have not visited methodis or Gambia high but have been told places a hard to get.
the teacher explained that the school runs maths classes after school for children it is 25dls a week 100 dls a month. i agreed to pay for three montsh 300 dls, to me not a fortunate but to the chld a lot. After explaining to her mother what was happening she told the teacher that "her mother said no to the classes because it was not good enough", that she knows of a better teacher. the teacher was shocked. He wanted to go to the mothers houses and have words with her. i said that i would go, with my guide we spoke to the mother who said "that the knows of a man who charges 250 dls a month and would come to the compound and teach the child". i wished the mother success with this, but explained I would not pay.
i could afford it but why should I pay. once again a family memeber is stopping the progress of the child. the child will suffer, it is all to do with money.
i wish i could meet madiba, bamba and some other memebers of the bantaba, better i pay for you to continue your education.
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njucks
Gambia
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 17:28:29
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Jambo
i think there are many things about gambia which perhaps only if you live there long enough you would understand. i dont honestly think a mother would block the progress of her child.
as you pointed out, the whole point of the Special Classes was for the child to get extra help to improve her grades. the mother might be right, perhaps having a teacher come and teacher the child under her watch at home would be the most effective way!!
i can tell you a bit about afterschool classes, most of the time they're just a repetition of what happenned in the morning. kids go to a class in the afternoon with 40 others and dont do much!!! infact sometimes they have long breaks to play football etc which is not why they are there in the first place. also most of the teachers do it to supplement their income and in some cases dont give 100% during the official morning lessons but encourage pupils go attend their special after-school lessons.
also the cost difference would be the same as the child would have pay to go to school twice (transport wise, and buy food ,lunch etc). maybe she doesnt want her child to be going home late in the evenings too??
i think the mother is not being ungrateful but knowing her own child she probably thinks the child would be better off alone with her teacher at home and would concentrate more since she would recieve individual attention.
trust me she would do better learning one-to-one with the teacher than in another overcrowded classroom.she would also have more confidence to ask about what she doesnt understand.
i think you should pay for the child and you will see the results. if not you can always switch to Plan B if there is no improvement
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Galo Sowe
Sweden
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 17:28:45
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Originally posted by jambo
i said that i would go, with my guide we spoke to the mother who said "that the knows of a man who charges 250 dls a month and would come to the compound and teach the child". i wished the mother success with this, but explained I would not pay.
Did you ask the teacher if he can go an give the girl lessons in her compound? Many school girls fall into the trap and become pregnant by teachers who promise to give them extra classes after school hours. I suspect the mother is trying to protect her daughter specially if the teacher is male. You could proberbly convince the mother if the girl was going to take the extra lessons together with other students. I hope you think about that next time. |
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jambo
3300 Posts |
Posted - 14 May 2006 : 17:33:43
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thank you all, i should have explained that the classes would have been in the school and she would be with other pupils of the school and other schools. it is an official classes not something the person has put together. Also i never mentioned about the teach going to the compound re the forum again..
it is the mother who wants the man to go to the compound not me.
GALO SOWE and NJUCKS you are both good people this was to do with money. if I paid the 250 dls she would have paid a man to teach her daughter at their compound.
think about that. i do not believe any teacher existed. she never thought about a man teaching her child IT WAS NOT GOOD ENOUGH, if i offered to pay for your child or family memeber to have extra classes what would you say.
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Galo Sowe
Sweden
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 17:42:26
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Originally posted by jamboAlso i never mentioned about the teach going to the compound re the forum again..
it is the mother who wants the man to go to the compound not me.
Jambo, you wrote that the mother says she "knows of a man who charges 250 dls a month and would come to the compound and teach the child". This is my reason for writing above that she might be trying to protect her child. Perhaps she would not reject if the teacher you were going to pay 300 dalasis was willing to go and give her lessons in the compound. |
Edited by - Galo Sowe on 14 May 2006 17:44:20 |
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njucks
Gambia
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 17:44:00
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Ultimately the decision is yours.you are trying to help a child whose mother you dont trust. you know the situation better than all of us.
Personally i will never let my child attend after school classes sanctioned by a school.whats the point of that? if they can't teach everything in the official hours then they should close the school. extra classes should be subject specific dealing with subjects where the pupil need help only not repeat everythng else.
i would get a teacher to come and teach my children privately,like the mother.
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Edited by - njucks on 14 May 2006 17:44:52 |
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bamba
Sweden
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 18:34:10
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| I want to think this Jambo is playing with the psychic/minds of Gambians, and enjoying it. He also shows signs of obsession with Gambia, some obsessions are abnormalities and mental defect. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 May 2006 : 19:11:58
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Bamba..what rubbish!!! 
This person is trying to help! |
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bamba
Sweden
401 Posts |
Posted - 14 May 2006 : 19:55:54
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| U are another one too. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 May 2006 : 20:04:26
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| WHAT ?!!!! |
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MADIBA
United Kingdom
1275 Posts |
Posted - 14 May 2006 : 20:26:48
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BAMBA,
THANKS FOR EXPRESSING MY OWN FEARS ABOUT THIS JAMBO. MAY HE/SHE THINKS GAMBIA AND GAMBIANS ARE STILL BRITISH SUBJECTS! JAMBO HAS A DUBIOUS CHARACTER FOLKS BE WARNED! |
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bamba
Sweden
401 Posts |
Posted - 14 May 2006 : 20:33:15
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| Do u think people are proud of u? Not me anyway. Everyday help this, help that, project this, project that, and it's only u and Jambo. I have question marks looming over your project this and project that. If u get satisfaction over telling the entire world that u are helping Gambia; go ahead, it's Gambia's treat. |
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babygirl
United Kingdom
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 21:30:30
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wow do u really need to insult people that are helping others? if they choose to tell the world that they are helping people what is the big deal? u never know it may encourage other people to start helping.
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toubab1020
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 21:52:28
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Originally posted by bamba
U are another one too.
OK what you say does keep the discussion open,but you should remember that you are not the devil's advocate and your opinions seem to be so far off the point of the discussion as to be useless,and contrubute nothing. |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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MJT
Germany
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 21:54:57
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Jambo,that will be very nice from you if you will kindly help her,and wait for the resultst.
Thank you |
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kobo
United Kingdom
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Posted - 14 May 2006 : 21:57:49
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| Jambo am afraid your tests as the topic "Education V Greed" imply, appears to have been featured for other ulterior motive rather doing justice as a good samaritarian to help a family in need. Njucks accounts are very convincing and it appears you don't trust the family you are helping. The bills were already paid for the extra classes before attempts to make other private arrangements for the child to study at home. In some schools these extra classes nowadays are compulsory and must be paid for whether you attend or not. Try and claim for refund which I doubt would be paid as the school academic year is ending in june. No one is liable to be accused of greed however the child's progress and futuire is at stake. If you are generous enough to continue to support the child on compassionate ground its left to you to decide rather advertising this scenario. My advice to you is to help the needy by making your own private voluntary judgement with sincere. |
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