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toubab1020
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 Posted - 02 Feb 2008 : 14:36:59
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Do African men and women have different feelings when in love, compared to men and women in Europe who are in love?
If such differences do exist,is it because social and peer pressures put on men and women are different in different cultures?
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"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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Santanfara
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Posted - 03 Feb 2008 : 08:06:45
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toubab, i believe love is love every where.but the expression of love is what becomes the difference. some places like in the hinterlands of many african countries ,people aren't over expressive of their feelings. that doesn't mean they don't show love but in a day diferent way. even in rural europe, the mode of expressing love is some how a little reserve. but heey they do become emotional in the fields and when alone.
the urban over hype love showing is mostly on the early days of love ,but as time pass, the love birds tend to be a bit ,you know what. love is love ,love is fankotobanban. |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
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toubab1020
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Posted - 03 Feb 2008 : 16:38:33
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| Fankotobanban is a word I do not know what does it mean? |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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kaanibaa
United Kingdom
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Posted - 04 Feb 2008 : 14:12:35
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| I guess he means every man or woman for himself better expressed every cat has its own way of breaking the mice head.I wonder is the farcical Mrs. Bucket oops! bouquet a real outlook on love in UK. Certainly to me it borders on the extreme where the lady of the house is catered to all the time with no one spared from the milkman postman policeman, husband and neighbors.Hum I am just joking because I know in the real world people do not act that way of course there would be the odd bin behavior of some individuals which one can describe in this same light.I believe that generally people do fall in love in the same way as others every where else in the world. The variants may lie in the traditional norms and values for example in polygamous setups ;one wonders where love comes in to play. Getting into that domain could be contentious but then again there is the other side which is polyandry.ah man let us just live the life love is strange indeed.I argued before that we all clamor loudly in the quest for love and it is declared for all to hear at weddings but the big question is where does love go when divorce comes in. |
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Sibo
Denmark
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Posted - 04 Feb 2008 : 15:19:46
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| love is love as already said, but people express their love in different ways. I believe that the upbringing, traditions and different cultures of different people have a lo of influence on how they express their love. In Gambia for instance, people are not that good at expressing their feelings, but that does not mean that they dont love. I am 23 years old and have never seen my parents kissing or hear them telling each other "ilove you" and stuff like that. When I go to my Danish friendsī house I hear their parents saying these things to each other and to my friends. My parents dont tell me they love me, but that does not mean that they dont, they express their love in a different than my Danish friends parents do. Sometimes it feels good to hear how much some one loves you, but to be frank, it feel better to see it and feel it than to hear. Actions say more than a million words |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 04 Feb 2008 : 15:44:10
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Originally posted by kaanibaa
I guess he means every man or woman for himself
in polygamous setups ;one wonders where love comes in to play.
Getting into that domain could be contentious
In the first extract from your posting,you mean that Frankotobanban is not a word from any known language?
In the second extract, why not develop the way that loves comes into play within "polygamous setups" Bantaba is all about being contentious
perhaps any poster who has more than one wife can enlighten us?.
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kaanibaa
United Kingdom
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Posted - 04 Feb 2008 : 16:01:37
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| Fankoto in mandinka means under ones self and that could mean oneself.Bangbang is strength; it is a disjointed word but carries the meaning i mentioned above. As for the contentious attributes of polygamy I will leave that as you suggested to some one in that situation.What of the Bucket type relation what do you say about that.hah |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 04 Feb 2008 : 16:10:45
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Originally posted by kaanibaa
Fankoto in mandinka means under ones self and that could mean oneself.Bangbang is strength; it is a disjointed word but carries the meaning i mentioned above. As for the contentious attributes of polygamy I will leave that as you suggested to some one in that situation.What of the Bucket type relation what do you say about that.hah
Thanks that helps a little,as for the bucket Hmmmmmmm I only say that THERE ARE SUCH WOMEN .
Polygamy I look forward to a posting from someone who can give us the benefit of his experiences of being in such a "setup" or perhaps 
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mbay
Germany
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Posted - 04 Feb 2008 : 16:42:40
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Sibo & Santa Thank you.
I almost cant aid anymore.
Love with panic! is it a love |
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serenata
Germany
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Posted - 05 Feb 2008 : 15:16:52
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| Sibo, you are right, it is better to see and feel love than to hear 'I love you' a hundred times a day if it is only lip service. I don't need that. And I believe that we in the Western societies are overdoing the fuss about love by far. It creates nothing but dissappointment. Look at our divorce rates... |
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sisay
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Posted - 07 Feb 2008 : 07:50:44
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Fankotobangbango usually means a fool. But an alternative explanation for this word is something where you put yourself at risk, like throwing yourself in the river and leave it to chance to see whether you are carried to land or beaten against a rock. Foolish in many circumstances but very necessary to some extent when it comes to love.
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